You should've told her that maybe someday, but that it is way too soon to consider it now. Also, I do not think you have a shot at all considering how you reacted to her saying that and the fact that you are both only 17. I know that sometimes marriages last a lifetime when people have gotten married at that age, but I know that it takes a special relationship and two very special, commited people to make it work.Married!?!?!?
You are too young to be making this kind of serious decision--especially something like this. Think about it carefully. Marriage is not a simple thing.
You had a reason for freaking out. Your gut instinct was telling you what your head already knows, you are both too young. I am not saying that you are too young to be in love or handle responsibilities, but that you are both too young to realize how different you will be two or three years from now.
Run as fast as you can...
Slow down and make sure it is what you want. Besides it goes beyond that - can you take care of yourself, can she?
Be sure before you get married. 17 is young - live life to its fullest at your age as a 'couple'. If it is meant to be you guys will get married. It will feel right. Be honest to yourself and her.
From someone who has been there, it is better to wait. I know that at 17 your feelings may be quite strong for this girl and vise versa, but teen marriages don't often last. I was 17 when I was engaged to my first husband and 18 when we married (simply because you have to be 18 in my state without parental permission). I have a beautiful daughter from that marriage, but there is no relationship between the father and I at all anymore. It is one of those situations where you had wished you had listened to your parents and I have learned from my mistakes. I now have 3 children and I pray for their future. I talk to them and explain to them how important a good education is as I am now 40 and have returned to school to work toward a better job. It is too late for me to ';turn back time'; now, but you have a good shot at getting your future on track before you worry about marriage and settling down. Go to college, get an education and a good job and make sure that you are in a position to start a family. Good luck!
No it won't work out...Just tell her you were ';dazed and confused'; when you said ';ok';.....
no dont do it. Not that young anyway.
Nooooooooo.. your young dear god no.
tell her that you have no problem with getting engaged ,but the marriage will come down the road as in when you turn 20 to make sure your lives are on the right track and that you know the two of you will last. if she has a problem with that ,then tell her if all she is wanting is to just get married then she will have to look somewhere else.
focus on college first. why get married with nothing to support it? just my view
Do not even walk down that path yet your too young. Finish college and get a career and then maybe just maybe she will be there waiting for you if not it wasn't meant to be.
God Bless and Best Wishes really you haven't even started life yet do not marry it will not last.
no, don't do it! A mistake like that could ruin your entire lives before they even start. Calm down, get a grip, and think it through (for like a decade or so). Trust me, that is the very last thing you should do.
Pump the brakes!! And don't ever get married because someone is pressuring you or because you ';think'; you want to. Your only 17, you have plenty of time.
Wow, she is young to be all about that! What, does she think she gets to be a housewife and does not need to grow up and get a job first? I know it all sounds high-test right now, but she should be willing to at least wait until you both finish school or get your GED or whatever. What is she, crazy to live with your folks for the next 20 years with you? She needs to give you until after school and then you need to think about this! Some girls are very afraid of being on their own or their folks said they will kick them out the day school ends, so they are not sure what they will do. There is time to get married, try being engaged for a year, at least!
You're tooooo young to make an important decision like marrying somebody. You both are too young, it would be a big mistake.
absolutely do not get married!!!!!! you are way to young and so is she. you guys still need to grow up and experience new things..go to college, hit legal drinking age and go out dancing, etc. trust me..i am only 25 and there is a big difference between how i was then and how i am now. i was in love at that age but if i had married that guy i would be miserable as what you want at 17 is rarely what you want a few years later...not to mention i would have missed all the fun i had dating different men and getting to know all kinds of different people. trust me...do not do it!!!
If you two really love each other, a ring and a marriage certificate will not make a sudden difference. If she loves you now enough to marry you, what difference does it make if it will be in 5 or 10 years? Perhaps she didn't mean ';get married'; anytime soon, but eventually. You know, young women do talk like that sometimes
An off and on relationship isn't a good way to start married life.....it sounds more like trying to escape her home life. Wait until after college to get married. She sounds too immature for an adult relationship
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