Friday, August 20, 2010

Can someone explain How a married man uses his side girlfriend?

Best Friend dating married man well over a year now. I told her this is just plain WRONG and he is using her. She came back with, ';How is he using me if he supports me?'; I didn't know what to say at that point? She also thiks me and another close friend are jealous of all the things he buys for her.





What is a good way to explain he is using her, even though he spoils her with gifts and pays her cost of living?Can someone explain How a married man uses his side girlfriend?
Explain to her that she is like a car he is leasing.


She can be turned in for another model on a whim.


xoxoxoxoCan someone explain How a married man uses his side girlfriend?
It depends on what she wants from him. If she doesn't care for him, then they're using each other, she uses him for money and he uses her for sex. If she doesn't mind acting and being treated like a hooker, then that's fine.


But if she wants more than money then he's using her by buying her patience and stalling her with gifts. To quote from Duffy's song ';Mercy';: ';You think that I will be something on the side but you got to understand that I need man who can take my hand';. That's what most women want and hope for. If he won't do that for her, then she's selling herself short.
With all due respect your friend has no self respect. She is borrowing another woman's husband who in turn uses her for fun. There is nothing serious there. He pleases her with gifts in exchange for sexual favors. She will probably one day have Karma to come back and bite her in the behind. But until then you do nothing. You have expressed how you feel and now it is time to leave it at that. '





She has not considered what this man will do once he is tired of her. He will just toss her to the side and she will look stupid. She feels because she is young and sexy she is better than his wife, but the reality is that he still goes home after screwing her.





She has no morals. You should just tell her that she is grown and knows right from wrong. Do nothing. I would find a better friend too.
If neither of them see the problem, there isn't one. They spend quality time together, both know the situation and have made their peace with it. Both get what they want, it's a win-win situation.





It can only go sour if the wife finds out and kills someone or the ';side girlfriend'; blackmails the guy. But then again, they're grownups and know the risks.





He'd be using her if he made her sell drugs or engage in prostitution but he just ain't making her do anything she doesn't want to do.
You can't tell stupid women anything they have to learn for themselves when he gets tired of her he will drop her and find an new side piece. Personally I couldn't be friends with a scandalous woman like this if she bang one married man she would bang your future husbands. Plain and simple if she can't see she is nothing more than a hooker than let it be.
She's using him.





Tell him he only purchases lavish gifts for her like that out of guilt that he cannot provide her the same type of emotional relationship he provides his wife.





He buys her these things because he knows if he doesn't, she WILL question whether she's being used, but she's just a stupid woman if she really thinks otherwise. Like so many out there. *sigh*
Sad, is how you describe it. She's not dense, just another victim personality that feels the world owe's them something. I had a similar friend once....a friend no longer....that's how you deal with it. I asked my friend to stop this same behavior, and I knew his beautiful wife and knew how heart broken she would be if she knew about her husband, my friend refused to end it with this man..I had to end the friendship...everyone makes mistakes...but those who want to continue, I have zero tolerance for!
She's what we old geezers call a .... ';Sugar Baby'; and he's her ';Sugar Daddy';.





Yes he's using her for sex and she's using him for the things she wants and needs.





They have all the benefits of a classic marriage without the ';I Do's';.





And yes, he could trade her in for a new model anytime and she probably realizes that.





If it were for love and affection, I would say that's not a bad thing or a good thing but those things happen.





But for them using each other trading sex for things ... its really almost deplorable.
He is not using her. The fact that he buys her stuff and takes care of her shows that he cares. The only thing that is wrong with this scenario is that his wife doesn't know he is cheating on her. But the relationship between your best friend and the married guy is fine.
sounds like she is a smart girl, really I don't see how he is using her?





they probable have a friendship and have come to agreement that she gives him sex and he give her financial support, if that's what they both want what's wrong with it?
He isn't using her, he isn't going to leave his wife for her. But she doesn't seem to care, so why do you? Your not the wife, so why not just let her be to do what she wants? Karma is a B*TCH...
2 words Steve McNair
That he is not you jealous person. She is using him.
Discretely
Your friend is acting like a hooker. He's supporting her? Geez, she sounds like a selfish taker.
He's telling her what she wants and gives her what she wants to hear to have sex with her....like a hooker.
That would be My YOTA!

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