How do married men get persuaded into having affairs?

don't they have a responsibility to uphold at all times,how can they let it happen?How do married men get persuaded into having affairs?
Women can be very persuasive.





It's tough the say ';No'; when the beautiful women sticks her tongue in your ear and graphically tells you all the things she wants to do to you in bed.





I was able to walk away from that one but it wasn't easy.How do married men get persuaded into having affairs?
I think sometimes it is being in a situation where you see the same woman every day. Maybe he works right beside her, etc. Some women just like the idea of stealing another woman's man, even if she doesn't really want him- she just wants to prove that she could have him if she wanted. So, she starts by just ';needing'; him for things. Needing him to help her sith something.. making him feel masculine (men live for that). Then she starts innocently flirting with him. Then after a while, she starts, little by little, making him resent his wife. They are friends, so he will tell her when he is having trouble with his wife (even just a little argument, which happens in every relationship). She will be the perfect woman and tell him how horribel his wife is and how she would never do those things to him. She will remind him constantly how much better he deserves, until he believes it.





Finally, he will begin to resent his wife, and then the affair begins because he now feels more emotionally bonded with this ';innocent'; woman. Sometimes the wife never even has a clue until it is too late. I agree that it is the man's fault too, but women can be so sneaky.
Because a woman's body is a powerful thing and his wife is probably not using her body to it's full potential. Think about it, you will get it someday.
A happily married man can not be persuaded into having an affair.





80% of America wives say they believe their husbands are happy with their sex-life but only 24% of husbands say they are.


So 76% of them are constantly faced with the choice, sacrifice a good sex-life, divorce, or cheat.


The first option is incredibly depressing.


The second option is ludicrously expensive and affects not merely your future welfare but destroys your children's future welfare as well. (If I divorced today in total it would cost me roughly $800k. That's whether or not my kids go to college. That's whether or not I live in a shoe-box. It's a total destruction of our finances.)


The third option is exciting; flings are fun... but dangerous and also not cheap.


A ride on my disco stick is a 6% chance to win a $375k lottery paid out by me.





You now know why porn is the biggest industry in the world.


Eventually that gets old and the choice is give-up on a sex-life for life or find it elsewhere.





The ';we have a winnar'; answer is, of course, negotiate the terms of your open marriage.


Well, ideally your marriage is happy but for 90% of the population that is not the case so... ashleymadison.com exist.
They don't get persuaded! They might get tempted, but they make a deliberate, conscious choice to cheat!
Sorry I don't have an answer, but it is amusing to read the answers of deluded women that think there is such a thing as a happily married man that will resist the temptation.
Men think with 2 heads, unfortunately one of those heads does most of his thinking. If a wife is not keeping her man's sexual appetite satisfied, he will look elsewhere.
It is simple my dear, women have all the power, and the source of that power lays between your legs.
thier wife has one first!!!!!!!
I had a responsibility, yes. Sadly, when my little head is doing the thinking, it is apparently unable to think thoughts of responsibility.





These days, I make sure my big head does all the thinking, and that is working out much better for my marriage.
A Happily married man can not be persuaded into having an affair. Key word there being happy. If a man is missing something in his life, he feels unfulfilled and seeks that fulfillment outside the house. Often times he finds a women to fill a void, just to find out that wasn't really what he was looking for either. A happy man will talk to his wife when he is feeling something is not right or missing and they will be able to work on it together. This is what I was always taught and it makes a bit of sense.





But in all honesty I am wondering if we just hold men to the same standards that we hold ourselves and we often forget that they are just an entirely different species of animal. They are driven by sex and progress. They are a visual, self-centered, live in the moment type of breed and many times can't see past what is right in front of them at the time. It is a shame that we have to always be on our toes and one step ahead of them, always be on our best behavior and look great for them and be available when they need us just to keep them truly happy but that is the way it is. We need to always be thinking that if we are not right in front of them when they need us then someone else will be.
They do not get persuaded. They are grown men with minds of their own. Some people are just cheater.
Dear Clara,





Yes, Clara, they do have a responsibility, but so does the wife.





When a husband feel unloved and unappreciated by his wife, he is vulnerable to another woman's attention and interests. I bet the say things goes for wives that feel the same way. If a marriage is not cultivated and nurtured, it can get on shaky ground.





Good luck with your question.





Anthony
the thought of more sex... after they get married the wives dont put out as often....
Ok lets start by saying both men and women cheat. And I truly believe its for the same reason. In general i believe people tend to cheat because something is missing from the relationship. If there is very little intimacy in the relationship (not just sex) then people tend to drift apart and the danger will be that they may begin to look outside of the relationship for it. Relationships need to be nurtured.If someone else comes along and starts to fill a void... it wont be long before a line gets crossed!!!
A man with good intentions towards his marriage does all he can not to stray. Even so, even a good man is prone to sin. This usually happens when he finds himself disrespected and appreciated at home. A wife who criticises her man when he tries to be a good husband leaves him with feelings of low self esteem, this makes him vulnerable to any female who shows him attention and admiration. Most affairs are not for sex, it is for how the other person makes them feel good about themselves. I do not condone anyone to have an affair, this only explains in part why it can happen. Now, a man that never had good intentions towards his marriage and can have a good loving wife at home will find any reason to have an affair or affairs. This usually stems from self pleasure, selfishness. The reasons are complex. Marriages that are not placed on a foundation of God's teachings and go along with what the world today thinks is ok to do, usually end in divorce. In today's world, what once was right is wrong, and what once was wrong is right. Living by today's worlds standards leads the marriage far and beyond the matrimonial way of God's teachings that were there to keep families together. All you have to do is read some of the answers you received and you will understand what I mean, what is right is wrong, what is wrong is right. Good luck!
Men and women don't get ';persuaded into'; doing anything they don't WANT to do.


They make their choices.


xoxoxoxo
Persuaded?


Ha,


Some chick just has to say lets F***.


Outta sight outta mind.


Dumb sons a bitches.
Unfortunately, persuasion often only requires a wink, nod, and smile. They do indeed have a responsibility, and obligation, to prevent such tragedies. It's just part of the larger problem of people not keeping their commitments regardless of their current circumstances.
because, as author and writer George Pelecanos so eloquently remarked, ';p*ssy can pull a freight train.';
It usually happens when the wife gets fat, and/or loses interest in sex. Or they become dull and boring. Or they become bitchy.
women do it as much or more...